In college my mentor always used to say, "Jessika, take the monkey off your back"
When you work with teenagers, okay okay, when you work with people in general there's a tendency to take their load. It's something that is a temptation for me often as I work with teenagers on a daily basis. I could be talking to this parent, talking to this teenager, working through this disagreement or that argument, this mistake or that mistake, that wrong choice, or that bad attitude. The tendency is to begin to feel responsible for their decisions. If I would have, If I could, If I would... then "________" wouldn't have happened or they wouldn't feel that way or they wouldn't be hurting this way.
We want so badly to see people living in victory. We want to see teenagers making wise and Godly decisions, we want to see marriages and families flourishing, we want people to not hurt or be discouraged, but at the end of the day, "fixing" people is not my job.
Over the last few years my mentor has had to tell me repeatedly, "You're responsible to them, but not for them."
I am responsible to love the mess out of them. Love and love and love, forgive and forgive, extend grace and mercy, over and over and over being the best example of 1 Cor. 13, God love that I can possibly be. Encourage, exhort, uplift, be patient, be kind, take not an account of suffered wrong, but not take on the responsibility for their choices.
"Cast your cares on Him, for He cares for you"
Many of you take on cares because you...care. It's honorable, really it is. We weep with those that weep and we rejoice with those that rejoice, but we still must know how to cast all of the care on Jesus. He can handle it. His Holy Spirit can fix what we can't fix. He can mend what we can't mend. We just have to listen to Him as our guide, love deeply, and cast the care to Him.
So be free today. You're not responsible for the decisions that others have made. You can't "fix" them. You can't make people choose wise decisions. You can't heal someone's hurts. You can love, and love, and love, and love, and love, and love deep, but then remember to cast all their cares and all your cares on Him.
Remember to take the monkey off your back today. Love people deeply. Then rejoice for the victory is in Jesus.